Is There Shame in Feeling Embarrassed?

 Feeling embarrassed is one of the most awkward and most humbling emotions of all. But one thing all of us forget is that we ALL make mistakes. We have been told this our whole lives but it is true and it is something hard to live by. So to answer the question in the title, my answer is no. True, there is that feeling of regret and the little voice in your head asking you, "Why did I do that"? But, none of us are perfect people and embarrassment only makes us more human. Now, what are some good remedies to help ease the embarrassment? Well, here are some tips:

1. Breathe: Block out everyone/thing that is laughing or looking at you with that "Why did he/she do that" expression. Focus on your breathing.

2. Focus: Focus on the activity at hand and keep going. When you keep going you are least likely to make more mistakes plus it looks a part of what you just did. When someone gawks and says, "OOPS, I messed up", not only does it cause the people observing to think that, that wasn't part of the plan but it also makes things more hectic. So try to remain calm and focus on your main goal.

3. Own it- Own your mistake. Like I said, mistakes make us human. Without mistake's life would be boring. So don't put it off on someone else, own it and roll with it. Plus, with mistakes comes experience. So, with that experience, you can pass down your own advice to future generations. 

4. Let it out- I have said this so many times but, it is so true! If you just feel like crying about your mistake, it is okay to let it out. Crying only RELIEVES stress. But, I personally would suggest doing it in private, carry out your action at hand, try to think of the positives afterwards, then crash. But I would also recommend talking to a friend or family member you trust to get it off your mind. 

5. Learn from it- Observe this mistake, think how you can make it better, and carry out this plan. It is an obvious answer but sometimes we overthink it and it may seem a little too obvious of a solution.

6. Think about the positives- Every mistake has its positives and negatives. But try your best to find the positives. I am not saying that every mistake should be positive and happy go lucky but I am saying that it helps ease the humiliation

 Finally and I will say it again, just address the problem at hand and finally accept that NO ONE is perfect and that we all learn at different times. Stay positive!

<---We have had those moments.

<---You just have to "Let it Go".